Does your inner mind derive joy from others ???

This is a very deep question. Many of us have very deep loving and attached connections to each other. This can be a good thing. We learn and support each other often. Help each other to grow and become better people. It is a good thing to be vulnerable. But it also can be devastatingly dangerous.

I like to share with you a few reasons, why it is and can be so. It is based on perceptions and habits we carry from our past ways of thinking and behavior patterns.

We are all different. That is the beauty of creation. No one does the same thing in the exact same way. We like to think they do. Simply because it creates a sense of bond and a sense of partnership. But in actual fact even though it may be similar in many respects it’s still never the same.

In relationships, we try to work with these variants. But sometimes we like the other person to be or act in a way we would like them to. This is a form of control . Even though they may do it to please us if they do not feel a sense of joy with this adapted change given the time they will revert back to who they are. In their true self.
This does not mean they do not love you. Just means that you are both a yin and a yang. To enjoy each other in your diversity.

There are many of you who are affected by your partner’s actions. whether it is a friend or a lover.

I hear more of the negative feelings that arise due to one of the partners being very self-absorbed.
As much as our joy is derived from being one with who brings great love to our heart . Our heart can undergo deep pain due to their selfish nature or due to some other difference in opinion.

As much as this is a given. Since we are all different. It can be a hard place to be in. The heart when it hurts can totally suck ! I understand. I have been there.

In my work, I find that each of my clients is different and so the way I handle each one stands solely based on his or her persona. Which I find to be of great interest.
Their situation is also most time than not varied!!!

It is then my duty to work with my angel guide and sometimes the tarot to bring clarity understanding and a solution towards the matter at hand.
Most times I work with my client to shift a form of thought or an energy within them. Or to share why and how this is with the other person. This can bring about an understanding and a peace within them. and equip them to work through the situation in a better way.
When you are in a compromising situation it is hard to communicate with the loved one who is hurting you. I understand. so. we work separately to bring clarity to their minds.
One thing is a truth which I like to share with you now.
” Do not allow the behavior or another no matter how ill-intentioned it might appear to be ( from your point of view ) to deprive you of the Power, clarity, and joy – of that which is truly you….. ”
-The power of Emotions.
(Esther and Jerry Hicks )

This is hard to do . But if you can separate your mind and your heart from pointing out their difference . But simply accept it as it may be and understand that your joy is your own. Then, for all good measure, you can remain at your place of peace.
Given, it can take some time. And some internal working. But that is what I am here to help you with, my dear clients.

There is great joy in appreciating another’s difference. I always love to admire others. For they are so not like me. In this, I learn and I grow and I hope, I become a better person .
I leave you with this simple thought.
” If I were a bird I am just glad that I can enjoy the variance of this earth. I am blessed to see the mountains, the valleys, and the streams and know, that in their own character they serve a greater purpose- for this I am grateful. For this is what makes my journies in the sky more profound and more fulfilling. ”

Have a great day and enjoy the variance.
Namaste.
Dilani Diva.